The Answer to Your Questions

How is she sleeping?

I’m not sure why this is the default question but it usually is. In fact, sleep is the primary topic during the pregnancy too. You are warned to catch up on sleep before the baby comes, and once the baby has arrived you are asked how you are dealing with sleep deprivation. At first you might think that this is concentrated on because it is something that everyone can relate to. Everyone has been tired before right? But there are so many more questions that I want people to ask me, because these are things I want to tell people about. Has she started smiling? What colour are her eyes? Has she started making any new sounds?

Irregardless of whether you have asked me these questions or not, I am now going to give you the answers.

A few weeks ago there was nothing more than the occasional and brief curl of the corners of her mouth, but now we are treated to smile festivals each and every day. No one really tells you how it feels to get a smile from your child, or if they do it is not something I absorbed. But what I can say is that it is such a wonderful thing that countless hours drip away as I work harder and harder to catch a glimpse of just one more. They become addictive each one hooking you more than the last. Some are of joy, some amusement. The best one I have had so far was just this morning. She was lying awake in her moses basket ready to start the day, I lent over, looked her in the eye and greeted her with a good morning, this was received by a heart melting smile. The kind of smile that an old friend gives you when you have a surprise meeting, like that, only ten thousand times more.

Her eyes. What started off as two giant, dark, and mysterious pools, have now settled as brilliant, bright blue eyes. Since the day she was born there has been three comments that people make about her. “Isn’t she tiny!?”, ” She looks like her dad!” (either a shame for her, or a compliment for me I guess), and, “She has such big eyes!”. She does. Her eyes have been such a significant feature of hers since the first day. They are big and inquisitive, and now this incredible blue that just shines so much that any grey day is lit up.

She has started to do what can only be described as talking. Not words of course, but her own interpretation of what talking is and what she has taken from us. To have seen a change from cries, shouts, and wails to garbled vowels is nothing short of amazing. Even those cries and wails have taken a new form, with ever intricate intonations appearing as often and sudden as the days that go by. It shows she has listened and learned and wants to mimic our chatter and singing. Looking at the swinging tortoise on her bouncing chair, she lets him, and us, know that she is happy to notice him. It is one of the biggest indicators that she has started to exchange the simple and instinctive newborn existence for something far more advanced and complex.

It’s too easy to focus on sleep, or the lack there of, when there is a new baby around, but I tire of telling people my stock response of “sometimes good and sometimes bad”. Next time you see me, ask me if she can grab things, or if she likes rock music, or if her eyebrows have changed from looking ginger to blonde.

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6 thoughts on “The Answer to Your Questions

  1. You’re right, that is so often the default question – along with questions about feeding patterns! I tend to think of it as one of those neutral conversation starters/fillers that is politely inoffensive. Ask about feeding and it’s easy to get drawn into an awkward discussion about breast versus bottle. Ask about nappies, and the same is true of the cloth vs disposable argument. I think if people are genuinely showing an interest, I’m okay with being asked a stock question, even if I want to talk about something else. It’s when people start to pass judgement that I start to get irate.

    Enjoy that babbling phase. It’s such a cute time in their lives. Before you know it, she’ll be bossing you about!


    • After reading this my wife made a comment about feeding. She had mentioned that whenever anyone hears the baby cry, they will immediately say “oh, is she due a feed?”, not “is she tired?” or one of several other possible let reasons. Those stock questions are fine, and they are thibga that everyone can relate to, I just want to talk about the stuff I am most proud of, the type of things that might make others declare me as a baby bore. Perhaps I will keep them in the blog.


  2. If you like the smiles just wait for the giggles. I act like a complete numpty in public often just to be rewarded with a belly laugh. Sometimes the baby chuckles too.


  3. Awe, this post put a smile on my face! I remember when my kids were babies and feeling the same as you. I agree with the above comment…wait until she starts laughing 🙂


    • I’m glad it made you smile. Encouraging a smile is what I spend most of my free time doing these days. Still no laughing just yet, but plenty of smiling. 🙂 🙂 🙂


  4. This is SUCH a beautiful post!! You’re so right — the sleep thing is a stock question isn’t it? People used to get a bit annoyed when we said the twins had been sleeping through the night from 9 weeks. That used to start a whole raft of *other* questions; namely ‘what’s your secret?’. The minutiae of life is FAR more interesting when you have a new baby to share it with 🙂 Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday x

    Caro |


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